Purpose Embodiment

It was about 2 months ago when my coach challenged us to demonstrate what's our purpose...without any words.  All body movement.  What?? How??  I've never been a fan of charades, and this is taking it a step deeper -- this is my purpose afterall!!

How dare she?

Because that's what makes Monica Day, well, Monica Day.  A transformational coach.  Of course, she picked me as the guinea pig for the 8 other entrepreneurs seeking a deeper meaning of their lives, of their business, of their purpose.

So I began acted it out.  Yes, with small hand gestures, a small smirky grin, and maybe a slight bend in my knees.  I spread open my arms about 3 feet, closed my hands almost in a pinching position and brought them together, as I slightly bent down as if pulling something from the Earth, and then took my hands above my head and pulled down as if pulling something down from the sky...to then complete the cycle.

Nope.  Not good enough.  Monica bent down in a grounding position, heart forwarded, hips behind, and looked me in the eye and said "do it again".  So I did.  Nope, not big enough.  This time when she looked me in the eyes, I felt it.  I felt it in every cell of my body.  

Yes, I must go there.  I must go to the purpose within my cells, within my body and act out what I was feeling in body movements.   I teared up.  I couldn't resist.

The same body motions but this time .. every motion was bigger.  My arms were now spread 5 feet apart.  My knees were in 90 degree bend.  My pulling from the Earth and pulling from the sky were with intention, force, and ownership.

I owned my purpose.  Everyone felt it. I felt it.  There's no going back.

My purpose is in my body.  I connect people with heart centered businesses to solutions supplied by the Universe.

Crumbs or Buffet?

Imagine being at a table, and you have a choice.  To eat from the top of the table where it is a buffet...as much as you want to eat, and anything that you want to eat.  Or, to eat from underneath the table, where there are crumbs.   It might seem obvious, so let me ask you this, "in your life, relationship, job, or other area, are you holding onto something small, living small?  or are you living to the fullest expression with abundance, joy, and unlimited possibility?"

In two conversations, as well as with my own reflection, I heard the words "what if I don't find it again, in someone else"?   In other words, "shouldn't I just hold onto these crumbs, even though I want more than what I have right now, it's better than nothing, right?"

I challenge you to look at your life from afar and subjective mode.  Are you holding tight onto something that feels small, like it's not everything you want?  Are you too afraid to reach for the entire dream, job, promotion, or launching your own business -- for the buffet?

Here's a chance to say, I want more, and I'm going for it!!  There's no reason to keep starving.

It's Like a Deck of Cards

Imagine a deck of cards, stacked and face down.  There's 52 of them, including the 4 Aces.  You flip one card over at a time.  Knowing there are 4 of each number, and the 2's are the low numbers and the Aces are the ones you really really want.  Now, do you know which card you are about to turn over?  Nope.  Do you get excited, or even fearful, that the next card will be a 2? a 3? or even the Ace?

Isn't that what life is like?  You never know what you're going to get, including the Ace.

We keep flipping the cards, one at a time, patiently.   It might be a series of low number cards, like 10 or 12 or 20 in a row.  Do you give up?  Or do you keep flipping the cards?  

The choice is yours.

Even deeper, what happens when you do turn over the card and see an Ace?  Do you stop flipping the rest of the cards?  Do you celebrate, obsess, or quit after you get the Ace?   Or do you continue to flip the cards for another Ace?

The choice is yours.

How you flip the cards, the time it takes, your energy, passion, integrity, focus, and your intention with each card -- well it tells a lot about you and the way you flip, or manage or handle, life.

How you do one thing, is how you do everything.

So keep flipping.  Be excited.  Be engaged.  And know that every card deserves to be seen.  The Aces will come, as long as you are an Ace.

Your Body Never Lies

It's kind of scary knowing that almost everyone I talked to is either sick, or knows someone who has this dreaded cold.  Are we all connected? I've had the fever, exhaustion, low energy that turned into sleepless nights due to a hacking cough for the past 12 days.  My body is telling me something.

Well, what is it?

It's time for a clean slate, a new start.  What I was doing, wasn't working.  It wasn't creating the level of success that is meant for me.  I was starting to live old habits again - old thought patterns.  Ones that kept me playing small, putting labels on things/relationships, trying to control, force, or down right be a person on her pedestal.   So getting sick, put me in bed, wondering why am I sick, what is my body telling me. 

Now I know.

There is a life for everyone one of us - to claim, to live, to embrace, to love.  I love my life, I really do. But it's coming at a cost of playing it small, and I'm done with that.  There are many people that are feeling what I am, and it's my drive to share with them that there is a better way.  Yes, we are all connected.

Our bodies never lie.  If you don't trust your mind, your ego, or yourself because our mind can create and manipulate to keep itself safe, at least you can trust your body.  It doesn't lie.

Small Steps into Big Dreams

I was self sabotaging.  I had big dreams, and honestly, they were so big that my body couldn't feel them and my mind couldn't wrap around it.  How do you imagine $100,000 a month?  What would that feel like, look like, what would you buy?  I had my dreams so big that it was simply a joke to my mind.  

The ironic part is I didn't want to play it "small" anymore.  So I thought by dreaming big, I wasn't being small.  But if I can't create it, how could the big dreams ever come true?  

Until, I had a shift, a mental clarity.  Take the small, actionable steps, and repeat.  I know how to create and spend $10,000 a month.  I know what steps I have to take.  It's by doing the little things that allows me to expand into "greatness", into bigger dreams.

In essence, I'm playing and dreaming big...just one, small step at a time.

There is no ending

Have you ever had a moment of such clarity that you felt it to your core?  

I've read it, heard it, read it, heard it...over and over again.  Intellectually I understand it.  Afterall, it's one of my favorite symbols, infinity.  It means no beginning, no ending.  Like outer space.  Where is that point where it ends?  Is there a wall?  If so, what is on the other side of the wall?Thank you Wayne Dyer for writing it in that context.

Have you ever had a favorite restaurant, and then it closed or moved?  or a favorite menu item that they change something in the recipe?  Or in a relationship that you just know someday it will end.  The end, it's always near and coming.

Even death.

But...my lesson that I received to my core is that it doesn't end.  There's no ending no beginning, it just is in flow..constantly... one restaurant closes, another opens....one relationship ends, another begins...

That lifted about 20 tons off my shoulders and out of my mind/ego.  It's about flow.  We are infinite beings, and we are capable of infinite possibilities.

Which will you choose on your path?  

Money is Energy. Not Control.

So many times I get caught up in the scarcity cycle.  I'm not a shopper or a big spender.  I will spend extra money on what goes into my body - like organic, healthy food.  Sometimes being an entrepreneur, it feels like going back to the basics.  Re-learning.  And during that time, it takes a while for your business to bring in the income you're used to having.  So the mental mind wants to play head games with you and trap you back into being safe & secure.  It doesn't know that a j.o.b. isn't equate to safe & secure.  In fact, it's just the opposite (hence the re-learning).

When it comes to money, the mental mind can cause you to feel heavy, depressed, like you have 1,000 pounds on your back and you are scared to move, think, or do anything including spend money.

I surrendered to it.  I confronted it.  "Money you are energy.  You want to stay in flow.  Spend, receive, repeat.  I will do that."  and mental mind "you can no longer control me or money, because money is only energy." 

All the brainwashing (albeit they meant well) of don't go into debt - ever.  Causes paralysis.  Not freedom.  What if I go into debt, does that make me a bad person?  or deserve to go to jail?  I can still be responsible and someday be financially free, so the debt is just a temporary stepping stone.  No need to beat ourselves up about it.  It's our journey called life.

I wouldn't go back to Corporate for the nice 6 figure income just to say I'm debt free.  I'd rather build a team of people who want freedom, who want to control their destiny, and want to choose their life - and not what a boss tells them.  That to me is priceless.

Your Story Helps People

Everybody has a story.  Their story of their life from birth to childhood to school and career life. Trials, tribulations, successes, hurtful or painful times, and life changing moments.  Your story can help another, inspire, teach, or simply someone wanting to listen.  When we don't share our story, we are being selfish.

At the source, we are all one and all desire connection.  That's the power of a story, it connects us.

I encourage you to write your story, like the cliff note or bullet point version, and usually the deeper, more tear-shedding, or hold your belly laughing moments are the ones that we want to hear.  It may feel vulnerable.  I believe that's where connection happens.

It's pretty therapeutic and freeing to do it too.   Have fun!

When You Give Back

I remember listening to Tony Robbins and he was talking about hitting a (financial) plateau at different points in his career.  Do you what changed it for him?  When he didn't make it about him.  His goals were about helping others.  First, it was with the birth of his son.  Another time it was about feeding kids...and then feeding 1 million kids.  Each time, his salary increased.

In the last interview I heard him say that he fed 42 million kids in his lifetime.  That's really impressive, and it is certainly is giving back. Guess what?  Now, his goal is to feed 42 million kids in one year!!  What do you think will happen to his income?!

Imagine that feeling -- from the financial wealth but more importantly from his spirit, how fulfilling.  

I have certain financial goals, and they are started conservative - $100K/year, then to $250K/year.  Which was a process.  And then I thought about things that are important to me - environment, right to know what is in our food such as GMO's, having the choice if we want our kids vaccinated, our rain forests.... my goal grew to $100K/month.  

After hearing Tony, I think I need to even stretch my goals even bigger.  It's not about me.  It's about what I can do for this planet and for others.

Go Through the No to Get to the YES

Think what you would do for your child.  Walk a hundred miles?  Fight for his rights all the way to the Supreme Court?  Stay up all night listening to her fears?  Anything and everything without a doubt.  

Where's that passion, that fire, with your business?

How many no's would it take for you to just quit?

Would you quit on your child?  Why quit on your dreams, then?  What example would you be setting?

The power of no is what you give it.  It can either make you better - as with every no there is a lesson - even if it's just wrong timing.  Or it can make you quit.  It's your choice, your power.

I have learned that getting No's is part of the formula to getting to the Yes's.  It's not one or the other, it's not left is yes and right is no like at a "T" in the road.  It's that I have to go through the "no" neighborhood to get to the "yes" neighborhood -- it's part of the journey, the process, the practice.

So when you think of the no's and they make you want to quit.  Remember that passion you have to never stop for your child - use it for your dreams, you will make you and your child and this planet at a better place.

Have Fun - A New Concept

Today I went for a hike; I needed to step away as I was getting caught up in my old routine of "it has to be hard, it has to be work, for me to succeed."

There's this underlying belief that it has to be hard, doing something that I don't enjoy or just pushing through to get by.  That it has to be "work", behind a computer, or in an "office", to make money.

The good news is that old habits can be replaced!!  

I went on a hike, and instead of the scheduled 8 people showing up, only one woman did.  So she and I went on the hike together - sharing stories, laughing, getting lost in the woods, and we ended up having lunch and went shopping together.  It was fun.  And, guess what??  She's going to introduce me to someone that our Ionizer machine can help!!  Who would of thunk it?!

Yes, you can actually do something you love, have fun, and still make money.  In fact, that's my reoccurring theme!  It's becoming my reality.  My old habits have a way to want to claim space in my mind, but new habits are getting stronger!

You can have fun and achieve succeed.  Isn't the way it's suppose to be?!